In die koerant vandag (Beeld), is ‘n artikel oor ouers wat ‘gebelg’ is oor die “growwe, onwelvoeglike seksvrae” wat aan hul kinders gestel was by ‘n hoërskool, en seker tereg ook.
Hier is die volledige storie: http://www.beeld.com/Suid-Afrika/Nuus/Wil-jy-inskroef-of-wil-jy-indraai-20100727
As ‘n mens mooi lees, dan sien ons die kinders was “deelnemers aan die Mnr. en Mej. Rainbow-wedstryd” wat die skool aanbied, en ek vermoed sterk dit gaan nie oor wie die kleure van die reënboog die beste ken of kan teken nie.
Hoe dit ookal sy, vandag het die (oorgrote) meerderheid van Christene ook nie probleme met skoonheidskompetisies en die ophef wat gemaak word oor die vroulike liggaam nie. Ja, ons is oor die algemeen teen voorhuwelikse seks, pornografie, verkragting, egbreek, ens., maar “alles wat ‘n mens daartoe kan verlei” (HK, antw.109) in die populêre kultuur is nie ‘n probleem nie.
Verder is hierdie voorval maar net nog ‘n rede (gevoeg by die legio van ander redes), vir Christen ouers om hul kinders tuisonderrig te gee, of saam goeie Christelike privaatskole te begin. Natuurlik waarborg die onderwysmodel nie dat ons kinders godsvrugtig sal wandel nie, maar beter onderwysmodelle bevorder dit wel.
http://vcho.co.za/tuis/tuisblad.php
Ek is soms verstom oor ouers wat verstom staan omdat hul ‘goeie seun of dogter’, ou ‘ouboet of ousus’ wat so ‘goeie Christen’ is, skielik so opstandig, geweldadig en immoreel begin optree, terwyl hy en sy elke dag vir ure lank blootgestel en oorgelewer word aan openbare skole en groepsdruk om die ouers se Christelike waardes te verlaat. Laat jou kinders toe om om te gaan met hulle wat die Woord verbied om mee om te gaan (Spr.1-6), dan is die kanse baie goed dat hy of sy net soos hulle sal word.
Ja, daar is uitsonderings wat die Here gebruik met ‘n doel (Josef en Daniël met ‘n spesifieke goddelike roeping), wat ongeag die staatskool sisteem heel anderkant uitkom (danksy goeie ouers, onderwysers en kerklik betrokkenheid), maar dit bevestig juis die reël:
“Moenie dwaal nie, slegte gesprekke (slegte voorbeelde, groepe, onderrig, invloed) bederf goeie sedes” (1 Kor.15:33).
Kom nou ouers, word wakker: jou sondige tienerseun of sondige dogter sukkel klaar met ‘hormoon wanbalanse’ (Spr.6:27; Hoogl.2:7), onthou, ons was ook mos jonk en behoort te weet. Leer dus uit die verlede, en moenie dit vir hul nog moeiliker maak deur hul bloot te stel aan dinge en plekke en mense wat hul nog nie kan hanteer nie. En, daardie fondamente moet van vroeg af gelê word (Spr.29:15; Pred.11:9-12:1), sodat hul later in die lewe die regte weg as volwassenes kan wandel.
Leer uit die les van Lot (van Gen.13:10 na 19:8 na 19:26 na 19:35!) wanneer u besluit wie u kinders gaan onderrig, waar hul gaan skool gaan, waar en waarmee hul ontspan en met wie hul omgaan (Spr.14:12).
Hier is ‘n artikel oor die immoraliteit van skoonheidskompetisies en die kultuur wat daarmee gepaardgaan, wat ouers kan lees saam met hul kinders (veral tieners) en dit dan saam te bespreek in die lig van God se Woord (Ps.119:9), ook van toepassing op die vraag watter media invloed ek in my huis toelaat. In die voetnotas het ek ‘n paar gedagtes bygevoeg.
Skoonheidswedstryde, prof. PJ de Bruyn:
https://proregno.files.wordpress.com/2010/07/skoonheidswedstryde-pdb1.pdf
Sien ook die volgende relevante bronne oor ware vroulikheid en femininiteit:
http://visionarydaughters.com/
http://www.ladiesagainstfeminism.com/
PRO REGNO 
Dit staan my verstom dat ouers,christen of nie, nog steeds dink dat die “kerk” of bybel onderrig hulle kinders op koers gaan hou, NEE NEE NEE dit is ouer betrokkenheid, hoeveel tyd jy bereid is om VRYWILLIG en LIEFDEVOL en SOMMER LEKKER tye saam met jou kinders deur te bring, nie om hulle by die sondagskool of jeug of waar ook al af te laai en hoop hulle gaan die pad kry nie, ” a true leader leads from the front and do not push from behind”
Sien ook die volgende artikel:
BRING BACK BIBLICAL GIRLHOOD
Parents around the world were recently shocked to see pictures in the UK Daily Mail online of girls, some as young as eight, dressed in red and black lingerie performing a racy dance routine to Beyonce’s “All the Single Ladies” at a dance contest. Yet even more shocking, was that the parents of the girls involved approved.
Other examples are just as alarming. A Skechers’ “naughty and nice” ad featured pop star Christina Aguilera dressed as a schoolgirl in pigtails, with her shirt unbuttoned, licking a lollipop. Bratz and Barbie dolls come dressed in sexualized clothing such as miniskirts, fishnet stockings, and feather boas. Thongs sized for 7 to 10-year-olds, are printed with slogans such as “wink, wink”. T-shirts for girls display slogans such as “hot chick” and “boyfriend material”.
In the movie and TV series Hannah Montana, very popular amoungst tweens and teens, the heroine Miley, leads a double life as pop star Hannah Montana. As per usual, she has the perfect body and hooks a “cool” boyfriend in the end.
Girls get this message repeatedly: What matters is how “hot” they look. It plays on TV and across the Internet. You hear it in song lyrics and music videos. You see it in movies, electronic games, and clothing stores. It’s a powerful message.
Whatever happened to the days when girls used to wear pretty dresses and play with dolls?
Most of us are concerned about the intrusion of pornography into every facet of society, yet, we should be just as concerned about the portrayal of girls and women as flirtatious sex objects which fuels the pornography and prostitution industries.
Research links sexualization with three of the most common mental health problems of girls and women: eating disorders, low self-esteem, and depression or depressed moods.
Frequent exposure to media images that sexualize girls affects how girls conceptualize femininity and sexuality. Girls who more frequently consume mainstream media tend to accept sexual stereotypes that depict women as sexual objects. They also place appearance and physical attractiveness at the centre of a woman’s value.
Why have parents uncritically accepted these sexually immoral messages marketed at their children?
Are we perhaps like the proverbial frog in the slowly heating pot, that we haven�t noticed just how sexually immoral our society has become? Or is it that we have failed to study and obey God’s Word?
What does God’s Word say? A woman is first and foremost valuable because she is made in His image. “Unfading beauty” comes from a “gentle and quiet spirit” (1 Peter 3:4). “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised” (Proverbs 31:30).
Vision Forum, a ministry dedicated to rebuilding the Christian family, sums up the vision of bringing back Biblical girlhood beautifully, “In a world that frowns on femininity, that minimizes motherhood, and that belittles the beauty of being a true woman of God, we should dare to believe that the Biblical vision for girlhood is a glorious vision. It is a vision for purity and contentment, for faith and fortitude, for enthusiasm and industry, for heritage and home, and for joy and friendship. It is a vision so bright and so wonderful that it must be boldly proclaimed.”
Here’s what you can do to bring back Biblical girlhood:
Teach your daughter that her value comes from who she is in Christ, rather than from how she looks.
Help her to understand that the images of women in the media are usually unrealistic.
Don’t buy your daughter clothes that have sexual connotations or slogans. If you don’t like a TV show, CD, video, pair of jeans, or doll, say why. A conversation with her will be more effective than simply saying, “No, you can’t buy it or watch it.”
Support campaigns, companies, and products that promote positive images of girls.
Complain to manufacturers, advertisers, television and movie producers, and retail stores when products sexualise girls.
Parents must teach boys to value girls as friends and sisters in Christ, rather than as sexual objects.
Remember, your children will copy the way you dress and what you watch. What kind of an example are you setting for your children?
Women need real protection and respect. Let’s bring back Biblical girlhood. Please join Christian Action in praying and working for true justice, righteousness and truth in South Africa.
Volunteers Needed for Women’s Day Outreaches at Somerset Mall (9 August)
We will be distributing free literature from our tables to all interested people. The literature will focus on issues dealing with the protection of women from abuse and exploitation and the importance of building strong families for the future of our country. Free balloons, with pro-family messages and Scripture on them will be distributed to children – this proved to be a huge attraction in the past. Funds allowing, free roses will be given to women.
We will slot you in at a time that is convenient for you. If possible, join us for a morning or afternoon shift.
Tracts and Christian Action magazines are available for your Women’s Day event! Please contact us for a Tracts Order Form or download tracts from here.
Taryn Hodgson
Africa Christian Action
PO Box 23632
Claremont
7735 Cape Town
South Africa
Tel: 021-689 4481
E-mail: info@christianaction.org.za
Web: http://www.christianaction.org.za